Better Mentoring 2017 (Charles Hewlett)

Guided Learning twelve month framework Better Mentoring 580

Would you like to improve your mentoring skills? In this Better Mentoring option, Charles Hewlett, Principal of Carey Baptist College, has set up a learning plan that will develop this valuable leadership skill.

Required Text

Forman, R. (2013). The Lost Art of Lingering: Mutual Mentoring for Life Transformation. Confia: McKinney.
Available for purchase via the Living Stones website for NZ$20 +postage, or for Kindle at Amazon.com for ~US$8.75

Schedule

By March 31

Find a quiet place to sit down and doodle on “Mentoring Chart 1” (provided in the Facebook group for this Guided Learning option). Take plenty of time – there is no rush. Ask God to be present with you and help order your thoughts. By the end of this session hopefully you have been able to identify a person that you might be able to encourage throughout the year.

Approach the person you have identified and ask if they are happy to work with you on this professional development project throughout the year.

Then, begin to complete the following process, to be completed by October 31:

By April 30

1.     Read chapter 6 ‘Praying’ from ‘The Lost Art of Lingering: Mutual Mentoring for Life Transformation’.

2.     Undertake 1 of the practical activities listed below with the person you identified in the Mentoring Chart.

3.     Share your reflection: Post two brief paragraphs onto the closed Facebook group for this Guided Learning option – one paragraph highlighting new learning from the chapter that you have read, and one paragraph describing how your practical activity went.

By June 30

1.     Read chapter 8 ‘Listening’ from ‘The Lost Art of Lingering: Mutual Mentoring for Life Transformation’.

2.     Undertake 1 of the practical activities listed below with the person you identified in the Mentoring Chart.

3.     Share your reflection: Post two brief paragraphs onto the closed Facebook group for this Guided Learning option – one paragraph highlighting new learning from the chapter that you have read, and one paragraph describing how your practical activity went.

By August 31

1.     Read chapter 10 ‘ Affirming’ from ‘The Lost Art of Lingering: Mutual Mentoring for Life Transformation’.

2.     Undertake 1 of the practical activities listed below with the person you identified in the Mentoring Chart.

3.     Share your reflection: Post two brief paragraphs onto the closed Facebook group for this Guided Learning option – one paragraph highlighting new learning from the chapter that you have read, and one paragraph describing how your practical activity went.

By October 31

1.     Read chapter 11 ‘Admonishing’ from ‘The Lost Art of Lingering: Mutual Mentoring for Life Transformation’.

2.     Undertake 1 of the practical activities listed below with the person you identified in the Mentoring Chart.

3.     Share your reflection: Post two brief paragraphs onto the closed Facebook group for this Guided Learning option – one paragraph highlighting new learning from the chapter that you have read, and one paragraph describing how your practical activity went. 

Practical Activities:

1.     Take the person out for a coffee.

Allow a good hour or so to really get to know the person you are encouraging. Work hard at not talking about yourself, but rather ask open ended questions (questions that can’t be answered with ‘yes’ and ‘no’. For example, instead of asking, “Are you happy with your results?” you might ask, “Why do you think you got the results you did?”). Think about the ambience of the public space you meet at – is it conducive to good conversation? Listen very very carefully to the things that are being said to you.

2.     Take the person out to the movies to watch a film together.

Meeting in the same place and doing the same thing can quickly become tiresome.  This is an opportunity to encourage reflection and growth in a different setting. Watch the movie and discuss it together.  Come along with a few questions prepared to allow for a semi-structured discussion.  Examples might include: How did the film make you feel? What was this movie wanting to say to us? How might the worldview presented in the movie differ from your own? Can you relate to any of the characters? What are the consequences of choices made? Was there any place for God or other spiritual dimensions to life? What does it get wrong?

3.     Take the person to visit an inspiring person.

A good mentor will expose mentee’s to people and arenas that will broaden them – to gifted people who are different, and to environments and cultures that are unique. Experiences like this help us to grow very quickly. Arrange to take the person you are encouraging on an outing to meet an inspirational person (e.g. another leader, a sportsperson, a new immigrant, an elderly person in a rest home, someone who is dying) that you know. Encourage them to learn and ask questions of this different person in this different environment. Allow plenty of time for reflection on the way home.

4.     Visit the person when they are involved in an activity of their own.

A great way to know people deeper is to spend time with them on their own turf – outside the 90 minutes on a Sunday morning or the Bible study on Wednesday nights. People can be greatly encouraged when we take a more holistic interest in them. Arrange to visit the person you are encouraging at a place you don’t normally see them (e.g. their workplace, on the sports field, doing their hobby, even at home).  Take the time to ask lots of questions and encourage them in what they are doing.

5.     Write the person a handwritten letter and post it so they receive it unexpectedly in their mailbox.

When was the last time you received a personal note of encouragement – it is so positive and reassuring! Put aside some quality time to hand-write a letter to the person you are encouraging – don’t rush it, take your time.  Let them know something of the potential you see in them, encourage them about a personality trait they have that you think is valuable, maybe put a challenge before them. Let them know how much they are loved by God and that the plans he has for them are very good. Make sure you post it!

6.     Host a small dinner with a few of the important people in the person’s life – try and make it sort of formal.

Providing affirmation is one of the most encouraging things that we can do for another person. Host a small dinner for the person you are encouraging - treat them for an evening.  Invite family and friends along to speak words of affirmation and support  into their lives. Let them know the gifting and potential that you see in them, challenge them to achieve great things, read Bible verses and pray together, and so on. As you know, often leaders see the potential in people way before the person does themselves. Giving a person confidence can help them to take on bigger challenges in life.

Facebook group

Join the closed Facebook group for this Guided Learning option. In March introduce yourself to the group. Then through the year share your reflection paragraphs online in this group.

Coach/Supervisor/Mentor

For anyone in leadership roles, having regular contact with someone beyond your ministry/work context to act as coach, supervisor, mentor, or even in a spiritual director capacity, is recommended. For those doing this Guided Learning option as part of their Baptist Leaders' Registration, there is a requirement that a coach/supervisor/mentor/spiritual director is seen at least once every two months. They need to be willing and able to walk alongside you during the twelve months. Perhaps ask them if they would read the sections of the Forman book as well if they haven’t already. We have put together a Guide to Coaching page that may help potential coaches/supervisors/mentors. Typically these regular coach/supervisor/mentor sessions would be about an hour in length.

We have also put together five questions in a Reflection Guide which can be used as a basis for reflection on any content (reading, video, audio, lecture etc).


Facilitator: Charles Hewlett

Charles has been the Principal of Carey Baptist College since 2009. Prior to this he spent 5 years as the Director of Ministry Training at Carey in which he was responsible for the training of Pastoral Leadership students. Before going to Carey he spent 8 years pastoring in West Auckland. Charles studied at the Bible College of New Zealand and received his MEd at the University of Auckland focusing on postmodern philosophy and adult education within the church.

Charles has a personal interest in promoting the value of people with intellectual disability and has co-written a book with his wife about their own experiences in Hurting Hope: what parents feels when their children suffer. They are currently working on another writing project in which they explore how people with profound intellectual disability participate in the Mission of God.

 

Email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it., the facilitator of this Better Mentoring option if you have specific questions about this option.

Email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it., Administrator of the Carey Centre for Lifelong Learning if you have any general questions about Lifelong Learning or Baptist Leaders' Registration.

PARTICIPANTS: Up to a maximum of 10 each year.

COST: This course is free for registered Baptist Leaders. All other registrants will be email invoiced NZD$50 per Guided Learning option.

[updated 28 February 2017]

Event Properties

Event Date 01-02-2017
Event End Date 31-10-2017
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